Why do some people accomplish so much more in their personal and professional lives than others? Even though they start equally in life some become super successful while others live a miserable life. The answer to this is development. One develops more while the other develops less. It’s your personal development that is going to give you the life of your dreams.
The greatest challenge for a human being is to reach his maximum potential in life. The greatest version he can ever become. It is to become so great that he can use any resources to his benefits and make the most of it.
That’s what personal development is. It is a lifelong process. It is the development of all our potential so that we can use all the resources in our environment to it’s greatest potential and make the most benefits out of it.
Keep in mind that these are not the ultimate tools to become an Alpha male or any such thing, these tools will only speed up your development process and work as a catalyst, but you also require other things as well, which I usually discuss on the blogs.
Now, let’s look at these 5 Pillars and discuss them thoroughly –
1. Financial Independence
Financial independence is the ability to live from the income of your personally invested resources.
If you thought making money is not important, then let me make it clear, it’s very important. Your independence begins with what you do with your money. Do you work for it or does the money work for you? Are you a slave to it or is it a slave to you?
What you do with your resources available to you and your money is going to determine who you’re as a human being. Do you use it wisely? Do you use it efficiently and leverage it, to make more in the future?
Use the 70, 10, 10, and 10 rule when it comes to using your money.Never use all the 100% of whatever you make, whether it is given to you or as your hard earned money. Use 70% in your basic needs and buying the stuffs you need and then comes the 10, 10 and 10.
10% should be given as charity or to the poor, as it makes you a generous being and makes you happy and fulfilled from inside. [ Why do you think so many rich people give back to the community in the form of philanthropy? ]
It also helps you in cultivating an abundance mindset, which is that you have more than you need, so you give back to your fellow human beings out of love and kindness. Trust me it will give you great joy and give more meaning to your purpose.
Now the next 10% should be used as a passive investment. In this investment you invest in other’s business and make profit out of it. You should always look for investments that brings value to the marketplace.
More Value = More Money
It’s very important that you start to invest from your young life, as it gets multiplied
overtime and gives you the all important passive money that you may require for some things in the future.
The final 10% should be used as an active investment. It may be a business you’re actively involved in or some other active thing which you have to put your time and energy in. But it’s very important that you invest these 10% and see it come to fruition in front of your own eyes.
What this 70, 10, 10 and 10 rule clearly indicates is that you don’t just work on your
living, but also work on your finances. You must always work on becoming financially
Don’t just live to survive, live to thrive.
When it comes to financial independence, the most important step is making a foolproof plan. To be sure of financial independence, you must have plans which are faultless.
And don’t stop or quit. If the first plan which you adopt does not work successfully, replace it with a new plan, if this new plan fails to work, replace it, in turn with still another, and so on, until you and a plan which DOES WORK. Your plan needs to be practical and workable.
The reason why some of your plans fail is mainly because of two reasons –
– Lack of Knowledge [ which you get from educating yourself ]
– Lack of Experience [ which you get from the real world ]
For both of these reasons to stop being a hindrance in your goal for financial independence
you need to be PERSISTENT.
2. Time Management
Imagine you get financially independent but get too ill to spend it. [ you might curse the gods ] Work smarter, not harder. Look at your body and health and take care of it.
When you have worked as hard as you can, and gave your everything you can, in a reasonable amount of time then give rest to your body. And the best way to become more productive and do more in less amount of time is that you become more skillful.
You need to be in charge of your time or else it will take over your life. Stop wasting time on unimportant and useless things. If you take too much time on useless stuff then you’ll always be behind the curve. Always know your priorities and what’s important and what’s going to help you reach your goals. Give your undivided attention to those major things.
One of the biggest enemies to time management is Procrastination. Procrastination is the habit of putting off important, less pleasurable tasks by doing easier, more pleasurable tasks. When you procrastinate it doesn’t mean that you don’t do anything, you just do easy things which requires less stress and burden. For ex – Watching T.V., reading comics,etc…
Two biggest reasons you procrastinate is because –
– You lack enough motivation, and
– You believe in Instant Gratification
The best way to stop yourself from procrastinating is imagining your future self if you procrastinate. Imagine your future greatest version when you’re watching tv instead of personal development, would you ever reach that point? Will you ever become that great if you watch tv and procrastinate?
Second best way to stop yourself is to have dreams so BIG that they literally move you on their own. Also have good acquaintances or a success partner who care about you and who you care about and push each other in pursuit of greatness.
The reason why this is so powerful is that when we procrastinate, we are merely breaking a
promise to ourselves; we feel far worse when we break a promise to somebody else.
3. The Law Of Averages
If you do something often enough a ratio will appear. For ex- if you talk to ten people and one says yes. Then a ratio appears 1:10. The most colossal thing about this law is that once it starts it keeps repeating itself. i .e. Once a ratio starts it tends to continue.
To beat the law of averages or rather to bend the law of averages to your will, make up in numbers what you lack in skill at the beginning and as you become more skillful then you can let the numbers down. For ex- You get 1 out of every 10 chick. Your ratio is 1:10. As your skills grow your ratio might become 2:10. But first you must put in the work.
If you remain constant and satisfied then law of averages is going to become one miserable prison for you, out of which you can never get out. You must constantly polish yourself and aspire to become better if you’re ever going to bend it to your will. You need to be ambitious to tame the law of averages.
This law is a key in speeding up your personal development. You need to understand it and use it to your advantage. Remember, i have written above, your greatest potential is reached when you’re able to use the surroundings and the resources to their greatest potential.
Always remember, that the likelihood of certain events evens out if the frequency is
increased. So, again Persistence plays a huge role here. As you need the have an alligator skin to increase the frequency of whatever you’re doing. Be it dating, getting a job, getting recognized, sales or anything else.
Keep in mind, the more times you take actions, the more times you get rejected, the more times you’ll find success. So, action is the key to beating the law of averages. For ex- If you’re poor at dating, take more actions and approach more women, simple.
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Don’t let your mouth overload your back. Don’t over commit yourself to tasks or things that don’t matter. Have a knack for separating your work life with your other personal lives. It’s very important that you concentrate at whatever you’re doing. If you’re working then work, when playing, then play to the fullest and as if nothing else matters. Always focus on the task at hand.
Always keep your eyes on the target. Your target should be to become the very best at every thing that you do. Now, it doesn’t matter, what you’re doing right now is not your target, don’t underestimate it. Learn from it and grow out of it while staying focused on your big target.
One of your biggest obstacles between you and your target are the distractions like tv, social media, smartphones, etc.. Beware of them, they’re some of the biggest dream killers. Let all these systems serve you but don’t let them intrude in your life and what you hope to become. Shut of all these systems after you’ve used them for a small amount of time.
When you concentrate on a certain thing you turn all of your power and energy on that thing which allows your brain to open itself fully to that thing and grasp it quickly.
For ex –
If you’re reading a book without concentration then you might not understand anything, on the other hand if you’re fully focused you’ll understand everything and might make a valuable positive change in your life.
And not just that, you also make the people around you do those things with the power of your concentration. They will feel, as you do, because you radiate vibrations of the way you feel and your vibrations are felt by others. Slowly they’ll get so engrossed and influenced by your vibrations that they’ll also start caring about what you care. The way you feel you can make others feel.
This power is used by all the influential people you’ve ever known. [ How do you think Hitler made a nation fight against the whole world ].
You need to become a concentration dynamo from which thoughts and energies radiate to others. And they can’t help but get hooked to you and your vision. You’ll become an emotion arousing machine.
For all this to happen in your life your motives must be strong. It should not be just I, Me and Myself. It needs to be more than you. The stronger your motive, the stronger your power of concentration and the more energy you radiate.
Having the right frame of mind is very important to unleash your maximum power. If you want to accomplish anything first put yourself in a concentrating, reposeful, receptive, acquiring frame of mind.
In tackling unfamiliar work make your movements slowly and deliberately and then you will secure that interior activity, which is never possible when you are in a hurry or under a strain.
5. Self – Discipline
The first and best victory is to conquer self. He who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened. You would have often heard that hard work is the key to success. Let me take it further. The most important requirement for hard work is self – discipline. Success is only possible when you can tackle the obstacle of procrastination and laziness.
We humans have a natural tendency to take the easy way, and avoid the pain. But the only choices that make the difference between mediocrity and success are the hard choices. You must have the control over yourself to avoid this tendency. You must be willing to take the wounds and the pain that comes with it and keep moving forward.
Success is something you attract by becoming an attractive person. It’s not something that you pursue. You must consciously, deliberately and continuously work on yourself and get better each and everyday. Your success goes hand-in-hand with your self improvement. And you can only improve when you have the self – discipline to carry out your tasks day in and day out.
A very important method to cultivate a life of self – discipline is to always know your WHY. [ I’ll let you know why…have patience ;]
It’s because the most basic definition of self-discipline is the ability to control your urges in order to meet your long-term goals. Focus on the key word here ‘your long-term goals’ – your reason why you say no to instant gratification.
The second best thing to stick to the promises you made to yourself is to have a strong “why” and remind yourself of it when faced with a temptation. The temptation to sleep when you should be working your ass off, the temptation to eat unhealthy food, etc.. Beware of these temptations. Always know your WHY.
Imagine yourself accumulating all that you desire but not just the end result. Also the hard work and discipline that goes on with it. That’s the right way. Imagine everything in full details, as if it were actually happening.
This article was an honest attempt to help you speed up your process of self – development and reach one step closer to becoming an Alpha Male.
I hope that it works as a catalyst in your long and prosperous life and give you all the riches that you deserve. Personal development first must come from within, from your inner core. So, i hope that you found this article because you’re hell bent on improving yourself and making your mark on this planet.
I hope that you develop your own unique identity in this world and help make this world a better place and leave it better than how you found it.
One thing, to keep in mind is that personal development is a lifelong process. So, don’t get satisfied or content with this much information. Always be hunting for more. Always be in search for more.
Stay hungry, stay foolish and keep exploring.
To explore more read my article on unbeatable charisma. Once you read this article and start apply the strategies mentioned in the article then YOU won’t be the same. You will become the whole new YOU.