In this article, I’ll share with you some tips on “how to be happy”? Live the life you always wanted to live and some sure – fire steps that you can take in the right directions to help you get there quickly and without much hassle (I’ll try my best to back this up ?. But this path is not easy, nor am I promising anything. You’ll see any change in your life if and only if you decide to work on it. So, I can only give you advice and then sit back and then you will have to do your thing, that is take actions for my tips to work.
Now, happiness comes from living the life of YOUR dreams, not someone else’s. But the sad reality of life nowadays is that people have become cowards and they become timid when it comes to taking important decisions in their lives. They leave it to the hands of someone else and want them to make those decisions, which will ultimately make their life pathetic and miserable.
Being happy is doing something that you love, each day every day without having a care about anything else on this planet. It’s being able to live the life that you always wanted to live, with the people you want to live it with and having freedom enough to listen to your inner heart’s desire and fulfill some of your darkest fantasies as well. It’s being confident in yourself and your abilities that no matter what you’ll do something and you’ll make it. It’s about your surity in you that you exude and the calmness that you show.
I know the life I just described sounds crazy and almost unrealistic, but almost. What if I told you that there are some people out there who are actually living this life. Would you not want to know how they’re doing this and how you could do it too? These people seem to have this magical formula for happiness as well as success. Wouldn’t you want to know about this as well?
I’ll let you know about it, but before that you must promise me that you will work on it and give it your best to make it a reality. No matter what happens you’ll be absolutely committed to it, until you have finally did it, you have finally created that life for yourself. Okay?
I’ll share three very useful tips with you and hopefully if you get the hang of them, then you’ll love living life and happiness is a guarantee for you.
Now, what has started to happen is that we are too busy in our busyness that we have forgotten how to live and open our eyes to the various miracles that this world presents us with. We have closed ourselves into a world of our own and there’s is not much room to grow, think and open our minds. We have stopped being enthusiastic about things.
Hence, my number 1 tip on being happy is –
Be Excited. About everything and anything that you do in your life. And that can only happen if you do the things that you love. Stop being a robot, living a life as if somebody has programmed you to live it that way and go listen to your heart. Do, something that pleasures you. And stop giving a f*ck about what others will think about it.
[ By the way if you want to learn how to stop giving a f*ck, then read this article. I did a lot of research in writing it, so i’m sure you’ll learn something and grow from it…]
Try to see the miracle around you, that is life itself. See the things around you and see the magic hidden in them. The planes that fly you from one place to another, to the phones that connect you from anyone all over the world. What’s that if not magic. Go into nature and see the beauty of things there. From the butterflies opening their wings to this world and accepting its gifts to the crows making noises from the trees and sometimes even shitting on you if you’re just beneath it 😉
All that is nature’s way of communicating with you and making you alive and present.
Some steps you can take to be excited are –
1). Visualisation –
Whatever work you are going to do, if you’re not excited about it then visualise it in it’s funniest form ever. Try to make it as appealing and as exciting as you can. After all it’s your vision, you can manipulate it as you can. But still don’t make it so unrealistic that it almost seems impossible.
Visualise it until you’re excited about it. It should be in the utmost detail. Use your brain power. It’s very important to visualise everything as they give you the positive stimulus that you require.
2). Have different points of views
Whatever thing you’re doing, don’t just think of it from one angle or one point. See it from a lot of ways. Ex – You’re doing business. Then you can think- What if i try this method? What if i add this thing into that and try to make something new? What if i try to find a completely new way of doing it, etc….
Always have a lot of point of views and perspectives. It also gives you a lot of options and makes you a man of abundance.
3). REPROGRAM your brain
I wrote above that stop living as if you have been programmed by someone. SO, you reprogram yourself. Change yourself and become the person that you want to be. No need to live a pathetic life which you don’t want to live. Reprogram yourself into believing that you’re good and smart enough and you can live the life that you choose to live for yourself.
You can also reprogram yourself into getting excited about something that is actually boring for you. You do this by finding the hidden benefits or opportunities that it can give you, but you were not aware of it right now.
For ex – Suppose you are not excited about Entrepreneurship or a business opportunity. Then one good way of reprogramming this mentality is. You think of the things it can give you if it succeeds. New house, maybe a car, tons of chicks, or maybe that long awaited vacation once it becomes passive, etc…
So, this is how you can reprogram something that is boring to you into something that has become exciting and adventurous.
Freedom starts once you accept yourself for what and who you are NOW and then are willing to work on yourself. You no longer care about your past, your future nor do you care who’s better than you and who’s ahead of you at something, or generally in life.
You must first accept yourself and your current condition. It is what it is. So, what? You’ll change it.
You’re my DUDE. I believe in you.
So, once you start accepting it all, you become flexible and strong to face all the challenges that get thrown at you. Hence, you get free of all the tension and all the sh*t in your life. You focus on what’s important and what’s your priority.
Usually you get freedom in the form of financial, societal and freedom from the past.
Let’s discuss those now.
1). Financial Freedom
Now, i’m not one of those so called “gurus” who say that you expect less, have less, need less and you’ll never need more, so you’ll always be free from the illusion that is money.
In fact, I preach the exact opposite. I believe that there’s nothing wrong in expecting more from yourself and also backing up those expectations with great hard work and knowledge.
But if you’re going to have financial freedom then you need to do self-education, and not just formal education. Formal education will make you a living, but self-education will make you a fortune. I’m not suggesting that you leave whatever you’re doing and start to educate yourself financially, but you can at least find some time each day to read some books which you think can help you make more money from the side..
For ex – You can make money from investing. Then before you invest anywhere else, you must first invest in yourself. Take the time to educate yourself on how to invest and where to invest. What’s right for you and where do you think you’ll make the most amount of money. Is it real estate, or stocks, bonds etc…
This way you educate yourself and slowly as you take actions you’ll start making more money and soon there’ll be a time when you’ll be free financially and you can pursue other passions, such as travelling or photography, etc…
2). Societal Freedom
Societal freedom is a freedom when there’s no outside pressure in your life, you’re not bound by anyone, nor is anyone trying to manipulate you and your life in any way or form. You’re free from all this sh*t and in no way or form is anyone making you do something that you don’t want to do.
For ex – If you don’t want to go to X college, then nobody else is putting a pressure on you to go there. That is freedom from the society.
This is very important to have as this is your life and you must be it’s master. Nobody, and by that i mean absolutely nobody can tell you what to do with your life. Only you and what your heart says matters, when it comes to taking decisions of your life.
So, societal freedom comes when you stop giving a f*ck.
You stop giving a f*ck when you have strong boundaries made by strong values. You must know what your life values are, the things that you stand by, the things that you believe in you ought to know them clearly and follow them with absolute discipline. Once you start living by those values, then you develop a very strong and healthy boundary in and around yourself and then no one can breach that boundary of yours and rule your life.
For ex – If you believe that honesty is the best policy, then you will never even listen to or want to talk to a person who is a liar. Your boundaries just won’t let him get past and he will never be able to manipulate his way in your life.
3). Freedom from the past
Are you stuck in the past? Are you not able to get over a past break-up, or a mistake or a failure? This is another chain that has caged you and holding you back from your true freedom. And the thing is if you are actually stuck there then only you can get yourself out of there. So, i’ll give you one simple advice and if you follow it then you’ll be free from the past as well.
You need to accept things as it is. Whatever happened, happened. You be patient and allow the natural flow of things to take place. There is no secret formula, except that you take actions and focus on your present. And the rest that is out of your control, you accept it. Time changes and trust me it will change this as well. The real beauty of life is that it’s unpredictable.
Nothing is permanent, everything changes; and of course, a lot of things can happen that will transform who you are and have an impact on your life.
You need to cultivate the ability to truly accept whatever comes and embrace it. Nothing in this life is permanent, everything changes. And maybe someday you can have what you desire, but if today you can’t, you need to let it go and accept that right now you can’t have what you want.
Yesterday is history, and future is mystery. But today, today is a gift. That’s why it’s called present.
Love is a magic wand that heals all wounds. It is one of the most amazing feelings on this planet and i suggest that one must try this in his life. Even if you have tried before and failed, then try again. And i don’t just mean the boyfriend-girlfriend love, i mean the love of this world. This world loves you so much, it provides you with such abundance, so don’t you think you should love it back. Same with your parents, or your friends or just about anybody who loves you and want your betterment. You should love every single one of them.
But love starts with two very important things.
- Self – Love
- Self – Confidence
1). Self – Love
When you love yourself, life is limitless. So, think about this. Do you hesitate speaking your minds off? Feel a lack of confidence while expressing yourself? Self-sabotage your dreams and your goals? You feel depressed and anxious at times? Did you ever wanted to feel the magic of love or have lost that magic and now you have no idea how to get it?
All this happens because of the lack of self-love. You don’t love yourself enough. When you love yourself, then you know no barriers that could stop you from achieving your dreams and your dream life. You exude a level of calmness and composure that everybody gets mesmerised by you.
By becoming more aware of how much you value yourself, you can begin to heal any negative gaps between what you think of yourself, and the true reality of a person with unlimited potential.
You can do anything you want. It‘s time to break the shackles of expectation and judgment, and start living from your heart. It‘s time to astound yourself with how beautiful your life can be. Time to treat every single day like a celebration!
Too many people seem to believe that they are not allowed to put themselves first or go after their own dreams out of fear of being selfish or sacrificing others’ needs. Whether you want to achieve weight loss, land your dream job, find your soul mate, or get out of debt, it all comes back to self-love and accepting yourself first.
To learn to love yourself, practice re-framing events in your life in a positive light, and don‘t worry about trying to be perfect. Instead of allowing outside opinions to affect how you see yourself, focus on the things you like about yourself and keep working towards your goals. Be your own biggest cheerleader.
Think that this whole world is a stage that has been set especially for you to showcase your magic and talents and mesmerize everyone. Work towards overcoming obstacles instead of calling yourself names or assuming the worst will always happen.
Many people have trouble letting go of negative thoughts that they have about themselves. These negative thoughts often come from outside people whose opinion we value and from whom we seek love and acceptance. But REMEMBER : Someone else’s opinion of you doesn’t have to be your reality.
Realize that you cannot control the words and actions of others, but you can control your responses and reactions. Decide how you will deal with negative thoughts you do have. You may need to give yourself a time-out to meditate or breathe. Acknowledge your feelings and re-frame your negative reaction with positive reminders of your self-worth.
2). Self – Confidence
Self-Confidence is the ability to move out of you comfort zone and take risks with no guarantee of success. It’s walking into hidden, undiscovered paths and still knowing that you’ll come out fine.
It is the way you project yourself and how secure you feel about yourself. Are you happy with yourself and the way your life is panning out so far? Do you have a positive, go-getter attitude and you don’t procrastinate while doing something important? Are you needy or do you have an abundance mindset?
All these things are very important to build up your self – confidence. You need to first of all have an abundance mindset. This means that you must know that there’s a lot for everyone on this planet. Nobody is running out of things. It”s just a matter of deserving to have it. So, you must know that if you want something and are willing to work for it, then you’ll get it. Even if someone else has it, you can have it too. There’s enough for everyone in this world.
Now, another way to build your self – confidence is to improve your projection of yourself. What i mean by this is what do you think about yourself? Are you an amazing jaw dropping masculine man or a wimp in your eyes? Do you believe that you‘re better than anyone you have seen in your life? Always see yourself as superior in everything you do. You should have no doubt, no shame and definitely no insecurities in whatever you‘re going to do. Self-esteem isn‘t everything, it‘s just that there‘s nothing without it.
How you see yourself is how other people will see you.
>> BONUS TIP
A very amazing way to be happy is to take actions. Whenever in doubt, whenever you feel like you are not feeling happy, or you just ain’t got it. Then get up, shake up and start taking actions in an area which you absolutely love. Trust me this is an amazing tip to break your rut of negativeness and it fills your mind with positivity.
It’s easier to act yourself into a new way of thinking than to think yourself into a new way of acting.
Now, a big excuse a lot of people make while taking actions on the things that they love is that they’re not old enough to do some thing. They say – Once they get to certain age, then they’ll do it as they’ll have more experience on their side. This is the biggest B.S. I’ve ever heard.
Experience doesn’t come with age, it comes with taking actions. For ex – If you’re a photographer, and you start at 50, are you sure it is going to make you a better, or a more experienced photographer compared to the person , who’s 25 and have been into photography for some years now and he has been taking actions on it constantly.
So, your happiness doesn’t lie in sitting and waiting for something. It lies in you taking actions, betting on yourself and going for all that you ever wanted from life.
This article was an honest attempt to help you understand how to be happy in life. From this article you learned how to be excited and various techniques that you could use to be excited such as visualization and being present and mindful.
I also covered the different forms of freedoms and which actions you can take to make yourself free again. And, if you’re stuck into any kind of thing that you don’t want to do, then just escape out of it. Don’t force yourself into doing it. And how do you escape out of it? By taking actions.
Then finally I covered how important it is to love, not just some girl but this whole world in general. And an amazing way to love is to do random acts of kindness, which you can do right now as well by sharing this article with as many people as you can so, that they could also read this article and it can make a positive impact in their lives. That’s how you spread love.
Since NOW you know how to be happy and live the life of FREEDOM. I want you to check out my charisma article. Trust me this is going to be the life changer.