How To Flirt With A Girl And Create Sexual Attraction?

Do you see average looking guys getting stunning girls and wonder how they do it? Do you wish you had the confidence to approach that hot girl in the supermarket? Do you wish you knew exactly what to say that would have her eating out of your hand?

Before getting to techniques and How to’s I have a very important question for you,

Who Are You?

You are not your job. You’re not how much money you have in the bank.
You’re not the car you drive. You’re not the contents of your wallet. You’re not your
fvcking khakis.

How Do You Define Yourself?

Most men do not know who they are. They live is a haze driven by a desire to have more things and attain more superficial Value so others will be jealous.

Life should not be about getting up for work to buy a new flat screen TV. It should be
about living the life you desire. This is your Passion. Your Passion in life, what makes
you roll out of bed in the morning. The simple thing you look foreword to everyday.

The secret to having a Passion, a reason to wake up, is this fact is in and of itself Attractive.

>> The Flirting Mindset –

Flirting has to come from a place of positivity. Sub-communicating this is vital. You need to have twinkling eyes and a boyish grin to pull it off. She has to know that you’re teasing her because you like her.

You need to be mentally tough and resolute about your ideals, so that you come off as a centered guy who has values and beliefs and who rates himself highly.

But don’t be too stubborn to grow and adapt to new situations.
You need to come off from an Abundance mindset.

As our attitudes toward scarcity and abundance in other aspects of our lives greatly influence our success.

In this mindset a person believes there are enough for everyone and there’s no need to worry or hurry. This is a sign of optimism and shows your inner core deeply.

>> CONFIDENCE –

How do you attract super hot women?
The simplest answer i could give to this graving question is: CONFIDENCE.

The secret to success in any area of life is eighty percent confidence. I don’t care what it is, if you set two different people with the same capabilities and skills i challenge the one with confidence will win virtually every time.

Have you ever missed out on a job that you knew you were completely qualified to do? Chances are good someone beat you to it by simply having more confidence on display.

When applied to the area of seducing and attracting hot women this rule is as strong as ever. Girls love confidence in guys.

When you step to a girl the right way..

With that strong, piercing eye contact..

With the deep, calm, relaxed vocal tonality..

With that positive, playful, just-a-little-too-cocky smirk..

she’s going to be attracted.

Again….why would she be attracted?

It’s simple. Because all those moves…piercing eye contact, cocky smirk all of that
exudes confidence.

The girl will instinctively know that this guy is not an average guy. He’s another level
and i need to get him.

You can read my previous article for more on confidence.

>> CHARACTER –

Successful flirting and attraction rarely begin with an obvious maneuver or strategic
device. Rather, a maneuver makes you a man with an agenda.

It makes you a creep. It makes you come off from a scarcity mindset. And we have already discussed about it in previous section.

Successful flirting begins with your character, your ability to radiate some quality
that attracts people and steers their emotions in a way that is beyond their control.

When you’ve a good, strong character then your energy is radiated to all corners of this world naturally. You don’t have to make an effort. It happens naturally.

You become a magnet. You give out frequencies which is caught by others subconsciously.

Character comes from deep within you and it has the most attractive pull of all.
As this pull is subconscious. When you’ve a good character women are attracted to you subconsciously.

I suggest that to be a man of good character you need to be a GIVER. At least do random acts of kindness from time to time.

– Big Character Nos :-

• Jealousy
• Hatred
• Backstabbing
• Scarcity mindset [ thinking only I,me,myself ]
• Disrespectful [especially towards women]
• Bad subcommunications
• Commenting on others
• Inferiority complex
• Superiority complex , etc….

>> Intuition –

Intuition is by definition – Instinct is our innate inclination toward a particular
behavior.

A gut feeling—or a hunch—is a sensation that appears quickly in consciousness without us being fully aware of the underlying reasons for its occurrence.

Intuition is a process that gives us the ability to know something directly without analytical reasoning, bridging the gap between the conscious and subconscious parts of our mind.

Intuition is the natural process of your brain deciphering situations and relating to other peoples emotions.

This sounds simple enough. Follow your gut to get women. If you internalize the tactics and techniques by performing them enough and you go autopilot with enough Intuition.

>> Don’t be a Sheep –

On the list of BIG turn offs for a woman, coming just below a lack of confidence comes the tendency of men to demonstrate that they are brainless members of the pack and nothing more.

Whether they choose to admit it or not, women are still attracted to authority in a
man. You cannot be the alpha if you are showing clear signs that you beat to the same drum as everyone else.

For ex- Do not compliment attractive women on their looks.

Why? Because everyone does that. Do you seriously think she has not heard those compliments before?

Actually i will go one up and even say that never compliment a women until and unless you’re in bed with her.

REMEMBER :

Women want to be with someone they perceive as higher in the social ladder.

Now tell me, if you’re drooling over her and drooling over her beauty would you be perceived as higher or just a creep?

So instead of opening with a boring pleasantry, ask her opinion about something, and do it in the way you would approach someone you had known for years.

Turn to the girl and just say ‘Hey, can you settle an argument me and my buddy have been having… who do you think lies more often – men or women’?

This is just one example of a million questions you could ask but it does something
important… it starts a conversation and at the same time demonstrates confidence and personality.

Unless she is having a monumentally bad night, most women will respond positively
and join the conversation.

>> Approach Indirectly –

If you are too direct early on, you risk stirring up a resistance that will never be
lowered. At first there must be nothing in your mind.

Go from a friend to a lover and in the process try to increase your social connections with her help [more on this in upcoming articles]

Don’t come off as needy, greedy or creepy . Don’t be a man of agenda.

And when you go for an indirect approach she’ll probably find you an interesting human being who just wants to connect.

REMEMBER :

Subtly flirt. Don’t get friend zoned forever. Send mixed signals. Create tension and then release it. Once people are aware of your presence, and perhaps vaguely intrigued, you need to steer their interest.

Be hard to figure out. Be a mystery.

Nothing can proceed in flirting unless you can attract and hold your target’s attention.
To get that attention you need to hit their imaginations.

Making them think there is more to you than what they see.

Once they start embellishing your image with their fantasies, they are hooked.

>> PLAYFUL

Always remember my boy first tease then connect. Often i’ve seen men make this mistake of trying to connect too early thinking they have finally found their soul mate. This is BS.

Until and unless you arouse emotions in a girl you can never connect with her. And the best form of emotion is laughter. [you can see my previous article on laughter]

And i suggest that the best way to tease a girl is to be playful with her. You can accuse her of stuffs and create tension about it.

Ex- My mother warned me about girls from Paris…cute but dangerous!

My mother warned me about lawyers…cute but dangerous!

Wow, I can’t even talk to you now!

Mental note…never date this girl!

Don’t get your hopes up, I’m not that easy!

Stop being attracted to me….I’m only attracted to fat white girls!

Notice the examples. There’s a pattern in all of them. You’re being fun/playful and also challenging. When you combine a fun/playful attitude while at the same time being a CHALLENGE for a female, she feels attraction for you.

REMEMBER:

Never make fun of yourself to get a laugh. It’s self-depricating humor which sucks.
Some more examples to clear your concept about the right type of playfulness-

Did you shrink? You look shorter tonight. And i don’t date short girls as they’re bad in
bed.

Wait, you take how many selfie’s a day? And you’re proud of that? Ha. I could never
date a selfie-girl…they’re always boring in bed.

>> BREAK THE TOUCH BARRIER

Break the touch barrier sooner than later. If you wait too long then that first touch will seem awkward and weird. So make sure to touch her as soon as possible, which is typically when you first meet her.

For example: During the day usually a handshake, and/or a kiss on the cheek might be appropriate. At a bar you might give her a high-five or put your arm around her. On a date you would give her a hug when you greet her.

Use your hands as you talk and touching her arm, shoulder or hand to emphasise a point. Example: “And you won’t believe what happened next,” as you touch her arm for emphasis.

Or just to break the barrier play games like Arm Wrestling. [check out this article to learn more]

While leading her from one place to the next you can hold her hand or go arm-in-arm. Reward her with a hug, high-five or kiss. Example: “Nice, high-five!

So what i mean here is the faster you break the touch barrier the easier it will be for
you to take things further.

But remember not to be too creepy. Do it in a fun, playful manner.

>> Funny games for sexual attraction –

– Shag, Marry, Kill

This is one of my favorite games to play on a date. Just say, “I’m going to pick 3 people in this place. One of them you have to shag, one you have to marry, and one you have to kill.” Then walk around with her and pick 3 people for her.

After you pick all 3 people she will tell you which one she would shag, marry and kill.

When it is her turn to pick people for you, tell her to pick herself. Then “kill” one of the other options. Then look her in the eyes and ask, “Are you good in bed?”.

This is totally in context because you have to decide if you would shag or marry her. Let her answer and then say, “No I bed you are bad in bed. I bet you just lie there like a fish. Then shag the hell out of her. And point at the other girl.

Then say, “Well I guess we are getting married…” And go into a marriage Role Play.

– Staring Contest

Tell her, “You know, you have great eye contact but I think mine is better.

Let’s do a staring contest. Tell her that the only rule is that she’s not allowed to break eye contact. So no turning your head. Blinking is allowed.
Then stare deep into her eyes.

This can actually create a deep connection. After about 60 seconds, slowly start getting closer and closer to her until you are either kissing her or she turns away.

If she turned away when you kissed her then she lost the game. Great way to go for a kiss or get a free drink.

Now that i have discussed techniques as well as some mindset let’s get to the final section. I saved the best for the last.

>> CONGRUENCY –

Congruence means how well a man’s actions match what he really appears to be thinking and feeling on the inside.

If I were to walk up to a woman and start a conversation with her, telling her about my brave exploits and how great I handle situations, and the whole time my hands are shaking and I can’t make eye contact for more than a second or two, what does that tell her?

She smells “wimp” all over me, like I just rolled in it.
She probably won’t even think this directly – “He’s not being congruent! I don’t think this would work.”

She’ll just get a funny telltale signal in the back of her brain that says, “Uh-oh! Danger!” And that signal will block any attraction she might start to have for you.”

It doesn’t matter WHAT you do, it’s HOW YOU DO IT. Everything works if you do it a certain way.

You can smile and compliment a woman, and that will work – if you do it a certain way. You could act like a nice guy if you want, but you have to do it a certain way.

The easiest method to attract a woman is to start from a position of confidence.

That way you don’t have to worry about whether to smile or not smile, or lean in or not lean in, or all the little nitpicky details.

You’ll just do what feels right in that situation, without acting from desperation, or afraid that she will reject you.