“Kissing is passion and romance and what keeps people together”. A kiss can build or break a relationship. “Women say they can tell if a relationship is going to work after the first kiss, after the first night of kissing, they just get a feeling, an intuition.” And it’s really important to know how to kiss a girl like an alpha male before your reach for the next steps:
Kissing is an art that everyone, whether you are boy or a girl, aspires to master. But let me tell you—like any other skills, kissing too needs to be honed and practiced before you actually earn the title of the ‘best kisser’. But all that comes later, what you need to do first is to initiate the process.
And while kissing may feel oh-so-good, it also has health benefits, too. It triggers a whole spectrum of physiological processes that boost your immunity and generally spruce up that body you work so hard to keep attractive.
The basic mechanics of kissing seem simple, but to really kiss a girl in a way that will make her want to see you again, and possibly naked, you might need to brush up on your skills.
Kisses can be exciting, but if it’s your first one, it can seem kind of complicated. What if you bump heads? Or what if you miss? Or even what if she runs away screaming?
Well, hopefully that last one won’t happen, but this article is going to walk you through the entire process, including tips on how to find alone time and where and how exactly the kiss should happen. Hopefully, this advice will help make your kiss everything you want it to be: enjoyable, cute, and romantic.
I’m not discussing about basic things such as Make Your Breath Smell Awesome, Take a Shower, Wash Your Hair, Smell Nice, Make Your Lips Nice and Soft and Well Kissable, because I’m considering you beautiful people know all these basic things and I’m here to take things further.
So let’s Begin….
Before you kiss, try some light body contact to see how open she is to having you in her personal space. Keep it natural, but also be observant: what is she doing? How is she responding to you? If she’s not open to physical touch, then she’s probably not ready for a kiss.
If you are seated next to each other like at the movies, try setting your arm so it’s lightly brushing hers, or so your knees are touching. Notice how she reacts. You could also lightly put your arm around her. If she comes in closer, that’s a good sign. And If she shrinks away, that is not.
Try touching her when you talk. You could even try holding her hand. Holding hands is definitely a good sign!
Whatever you do, you’ll want to make sure that you’re touching physically in some way before you go in for a kiss. That will help clue her in to what’s going on. Lunging in from two feet away is a sure way to surprise her, and not necessarily in a good way. Besides, the tension leading up to the kiss is the best part anyways.
If you’re saying goodbye, then you could give her a long hug, and then pull back and go in for a kiss then if it feels right.
Silence comes before a kiss. That means that kisses are generally preceded by a period of intense eye contact without talking. It could be just a few seconds or a little longer, but it is important. It lets both of you know that something interesting is about to happen.
Stare deep into her eyes. Once the mood is deeply romantic and you two lovebirds are about to blast off into loverspace, it’s time for the approach.
Getting permission to kiss someone is not to be taken lightly — putting your lips on another’s body is very invasive (which is why it’s so thrilling), and when it’s done right, everyone has a great time.
Usually you can tell from her body language and your interactions if she’s wanting to kiss you. Is she leaning towards you? Facing away from you? Smiling or is she grumpy? Does she seem bored? (Warning: don’t think that swooping in for a kiss is the cure for her boredom — it’s likely not).
Especially if you’ve gone out before and have a sense for who she is, you can gather clues from her body language and make your move without asking for her spoken permission.
Start your approach slowly, but purposefully, entering her personal space and heading straight for the lips (with a slight tilt of the head). Then pause right before you hit her lips. If she doesn’t back away, then you’re probably good to go. It’s even better if she comes and meets your lips where you are.
Always remember the best way to make any girl attracted to you is by entering her personal space, and by creating emotions. If you can arouse emotion in a girl you can make her do anything.
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Yes, it is scary to go in for a first kiss with someone, and yes, that might make everything in your body want to clench up, including your hands, your arms, and your mouth and face. However, if she wanted to date a tree, she wouldn’t have gone out with you. So try to loosen up!
Keep your lips slightly open when you go in for the kiss, not gaping like a carp, but just barely parted so that they’re at their softest and most full, like you’re about to say something. In contrast, a closed mouth could make it look like all you want to do is give her a tiny peck with your lips.
As you start to approach your lovely target, be sure to tilt your head slightly sideways and if possible, guide her head to tilt it to the opposite side with your hands.
This works best if you do it in a soft, gentle manner, not like a robot working on auto parts. For example, if you were just caressing her face (which — great starter move by the way), gently hold her head or her chin (like it’s a precious object!) and move it ever so slightly to the side.
You can take your time with this! There is no rush, and even though it might feel like the world is ending, or maybe that time is stopping, all of the anticipation will only make the final kiss that much better.
If you don’t take the appropriate precautions, you risk bumping noses. If that happens, just laugh it off and tilt your head again so you can kiss her immediately while the situation is still romantic and heated up. Don’t be discouraged!
Do not underestimate the importance of keeping your eyes closed while kissing. Nothing is worse than accidentally opening your eyes and seeing the other person staring back at you like a maniac. Yikes!
No matter how long or how short your kiss is going to be, remind yourself to close your eyes for it — it’s a sign of enjoyment and by closing your eyes, you communicate the message that you are in a trance because of the spell your special love has cast upon you.
That said, don’t shut your eyes too soon. It’s best to let it happen either right before or right after you make contact. Closing the doors on your peepers prematurely may cause you to miss her lips!
Again, if that happens, laugh it off and go for it again.
Once you’ve made contact. Awesome! Keep it nice and soft. Then, back and look at her after the first kiss, and do it again (if she seems into it).
At this point, you could continue with kissing if the setting allows (and she’s enjoying it), or you could finish with a soft kiss and a hug.
If you continue, start focusing on the lower lip or upper lip with your soft kisses (do not use your tongue!), and open your mouth slightly. If you want, you could gently take her lip into your mouth (gently!).
As mentioned earlier, kissing is a full body experience. It might start with the mouth and face, but that is certainly not where it stops (and I’m not talking about that.)
Even though you don’t kiss with your hands, they play a very big role in making your kissing experience more enjoyable. There are several things you can do with your hands while you’re kissing that have nothing to do with groping and everything to do with being a great kissing partner:
You can use your hands to touch her neck and her face
You can put them around her waist or around her back to bring her closer to you (but be careful of getting too caught up and forcing her into a bear hug!).
Gently run your hands through her hair and softly touch her face. Let the movements come naturally — if you go soft and slow, you can’t go wrong.
Ah, the tongue — one of kissing’s best and most abused tools. If you’re kissing someone for the first time, you’re likely pretty excited about it (as you should be!), but do not let that excitement carry over into the tongue department, thrusting it in and waggling it about like you’re searching for gold.
No, no, no. At first, there must be no tongue, just gentle lip kisses. Keep your mouth slightly open and draw one of her lips gently between yours, then let it go, and then do the other one. Only after a solid period of lip-action is the tongue invited to the party.
If you’ve been kissing for a little bit and it’s going well, it might be time to try some tongue. The key thing to remember here is that a little goes a long way. I’ll say it again a little differently: more tongue does not mean more fun (for her at least).
Here’s how you introduce some tongue: Once you’re into the kiss, gently slide the tip of your tongue into her mouth and gently and smoothly across her lips for just a moment and pull it back in. This is the only motion that you need to repeat.
Don’t try to stick the whole thing in there and leave it in there, do not flick your tongue wildly for any reason, do not jam it in and out over and over again, and do not straight up lick her face or lips. Those are all awful. Don’t do them.
Now, if she brings her tongue out first, welcome it by returning the favor with yours. Again, gently, and with moderation.
Spit anywhere besides the mouth is gross, and excessive saliva can make a kiss very sloppy and irritating but when you kiss, your mouth tends to make more of it so this can be a little tricky.
If you notice that your mouth is filling up with spit and you’ve (gasp!) even drooled, take a second, pull back, and swallow. Not only will this help reduce the amount of spit in your mouth, but it’s also a great moment to look deep into her eyes and smile. You’ll look so sexy.
Think of every kiss as savoring the most expensive meal in the world. Would you gobble it down as fast as you could or would you start by taking in the dish’s look and smell, and then enjoying it bite by bite until the very last crumb?
Assuming that you picked the latter, enjoy every moment of your kiss and immerse yourself into the whole experience. Don’t kiss too quickly and don’t be afraid to go slow. You can heighten the experience by feeling every step of your kiss.
If you do end up making out, don’t make the mistake of holding your breath for so long that you need to come up gasping for air like a scuba diver. When you need to breathe, just gently pull away. You could, at this moment, gently stroke her face or move to kissing her neck, cheek, or ear — all of which are easier to breathe during.
As you pull away from your kiss, all you need to do is smile. You don’t have to have anything funny or romantic to say (though you should feel free to say something if it comes naturally. Beware: There is less of a chance of making yourself seem like an idiot if you don’t say anything.)
Regardless, you should not plan out something to say afterwards because it likely just won’t fit. Nothing fits better than a smile. She’ll probably smile back too. If you like, you can give her a compliment and lean in for yet another kiss. But do it in a certain way as it’s not what you do . it’ how you do it.
This is a place where people often say, “You’re beautiful, pretty, amazing, etc.” If something like that seems appropriate, go ahead and say it.
Kissing has also health benefits, too. It triggers a whole spectrum of physiological processes that boost your immunity and generally spruce up that body you work so hard to keep attractive.
So go and kiss your girls and improve your health at the same time.
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