Overcoming any addiction is one’s decision. You can’t overcome it without deciding yourself first. Whether you’re dealing with an addiction to alcohol, tobacco, sex, drugs, gaming, lying or gambling, admitting that you have a problem is always the first step to overcome addiction.
Before digging too deep to overcome any addiction, first let’s know more about what is addiction? It’s types and it’s impact.
What it is? disease, brain-disorder or simply a pattern that your brain follows.
Addiction is an inability to stop doing or using something, especially something harmful. It is the need or strong desire to do or to have something, or a very strong liking for something, according to cambridge dictionary.
Addiction is simply a brain game. It is a brain-disorder which is rewarding and reinforcing both behavior wise.
Rewarding – Something that brain interprets as intrinsically positive, desirable, pleasurable or as something to be approached.
Reinforcing – Urges to increase probability of repeating behaviors.
An addiction is a compulsive behavior that is very difficult to control. It’s something that we consistently think and obsess about that interferes with our social relations and threatens to take over our life.
It is a behavior that we become somewhat dependent upon that helps us alter our emotional state-of-mind and satisfy our inner desires and drives. It’s a behavior that gives us a sense of security and control. However, this control is an illusion that actually threatens our emotional well-being.
When we indulge in our addictions, they completely overshadow other priorities, commitments, and
responsibilities we have to ourselves, to our families, colleagues, and friends. These addictions take over our lives and affect our work, health, and social life.
Addiction is the term given to a pattern of behaviour that causes negative consequences for the individual. Most people assume that addiction refers only to those who have a compulsive need for a particular substance such as alcohol or drugs.
However, in reality, it is possible to become addicted to almost anything. To be clear, this condition occurs when a person continues to do something despite knowing that it will have an adverse impact on his or her life.
Because of the various causes and triggers, there are many different types of addictions.
Alcohol is a legal substance that is widely used by people the world over. Nevertheless, it is also a highly addictive substance and one that can cause a number of health problems. Those who abuse alcohol are in danger of developing a physical and psychological dependence that will mean they continue to drink even though doing so has harmful consequences.
While some individuals can use drugs such as cannabis and cocaine recreationally, there are others for whom drugs become an obsession. The powerful effects of drugs such as heroin, nicotine [ smoking ] and cocaine often lead to addiction, with those affected being unable to control their urge to take the substance.
Drug addiction often leads to the breakdown of relationships, job losses, financial struggles, and homelessness. It can have a devastating effect on family members and can result in a host of mental and physical health issues.
Those who are affected by a gambling addiction often become addicted to the thrill of gambling. They may start out gambling in the hope of securing a ‘big win’, but as time goes by, they become obsessed with the thoughts of gambling and the anticipation of winning.
Gambling addiction can lead to devastating consequences for the entire family as many of those affected will run up massive debts while some will even resort to crime in order to get their hands on the money they need to continue gambling.
Addiction to pornography or sex may have comical undertones for a number of people, but it is a very real problem for those affected; and one that can destroy their lives. In fact, the spouses of those with a diagnosed sex or pornography addiction often say it is the worst type of addiction one could have.
They feel betrayed and devastated, and it can place and enormous strain on their relationship. Pornography addicts spend much of their time watching porn or thinking about it.
As time goes by, they feel the need to watch more and more graphic images and material. Some pornography addicts find it difficult to enjoy sex with a partner, and it can have an adverse impact on many areas of their lives.
Many teenagers spend much of their time these days living in a virtual world. They socialise through the internet and find it difficult to interact with people on a face-to-face basis. Online gaming becomes a problem when it begins to affect the lives of those who take part in it.
It is something that tends to affect teenagers and can result in them becoming socially withdrawn and isolated. It can also have a negative effect on lifestyle as those with severe gaming addictions may neglect other responsibilities such as personal hygiene and school work.
Many gaming addicts will spend hours at a time playing online and will forego sleep, which can result in health problems.
Even if social media addiction is not a true diagnosis, there are certain signs of addiction you can look for to determine if someone has a problem. Some of the signs that a person is addicted to social media include:
Spending more and more time on your social media pages. Thinking about your social media sites when not online.Feeling an overwhelming need to share something on your Facebook or other social media page. Getting anxious or stressed out if you have not been able to get online for a certain about of time.
Addiction of food is also known as eating disorders and they can destroy the lives of those affected. Eating disorders are classed as an unhealthy or abnormal attitude towards food. Eating disorders are mental health issues and are notoriously difficult to treat.
Many who have these types of addiction may never notice it. Their codependency or their short-lived relationships are accepted as normal.
They are in Constant searching for new romantic partners, they have difficulty spending time alone. They even use sex to keep the partner interested.
Sometimes it’s the thrill of a new or potentially dangerous – or actually dangerous – activity that creates a high in the person. While roller coaster rides and adventure sports like parachuting out of an airplane or snowboarding off cliffs may be the lengths that most people will go with the intent of catching an adrenaline rush, these are good things but some people take it further.
Risky driving like driving under the influence, speeding the vehicle on slippery paths or on roads with craters, and choosing other activities that clearly put them at risk can indicate an addiction to risk when the person is unable to stop engaging in these activities despite the increase in negative consequences.
Overcoming an addiction is never an easy or straightforward process. It requires conscious work, effort and time.
As I have explained many times, this universal law works by bringing into our reality the things we focus on the most.
As like attracts like, addicts, as their thoughts are focused on alcohol, drugs, food or something else, will manifest more of that in their lives. That creates an enchanted circle from which they can’t escape without changing their thoughts; but, as their thoughts are those related to their addiction, or to the shame and guilt because they can’t get out of it, they have a hard time turning them to a more positive direction.
Even when you resist something, you are focusing your attention on it – and the emotion that it evokes is a negative one (because you don’t want to think about it), so, for example, if you resist alcohol and are often thinking about how bad it is, more experiences will show up that let you know how bad alcohol is – but the alcohol will still be in your reality, and the experiences that point out how bad it is will only make you feel really, really bad about yourself.
You can use the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. All addiction recovery can be enhanced by understanding just how important thoughts are in changing behavior.
Overcoming addiction is a long journey.
It all starts from acknowledging your addiction and deciding to get rid of it or eradicate it from your life.
The very first step to overcoming an addiction requires acknowledging that you’re struggling with an addiction. Ask yourself:
Awareness and an acknowledgment of your addiction is a necessary step that accelerates the process of change and transformation. However, to begin the process of change, you must first have a desire for things to be different. In other words, you must be ready and willing to make changes to overcome your addiction.
Unless you find compelling enough reasons to start making changes today, you simply won’t have enough motivation to follow through with your desired actions. It’s, therefore, critical that you take the time to answer these questions thoroughly and list down all the reasons why changing today is of paramount importance.
Only you can decide to overcome an addiction. Quitting is a gradual process – it might take several attempts. Withdrawal symptoms – the unpleasant and sometimes life-threatening reactions that accompany giving up an addiction – can be a challenge. But don’t give up hope if you find things difficult.
Quitting is easier if you have support, set goals and are prepared for challenges.
When the big day arrives, keep your promise to yourself and quit. Those first few days are going to be hard. Keep yourself busy and stay positive. You’re on your way to an addiction-free life.
Your next step to overcoming addiction is to take responsibility. Immediately stop making excuses, stop blaming other people or circumstances, and stop justifying your actions. Just stop explaining away why your addiction is worth holding onto.
Instead, acknowledge personal responsibility for the decisions and actions that led you to this moment. What happened in the past can no longer be changed, but you can change what you decide to do at this moment. This, therefore, becomes a perfect opportunity for you to start anew and begin your journey down a fresh path.
Also, take a moment to forgive yourself for indulging in this addiction. You are human, and you make mistakes. Forgive yourself and make a decision to move forward in a better and more optimal way.
Finally, consider how your addiction has affected other people in your life. Reach out to these people and explain how you are now on a brand new path. Where necessary seek their support and forgiveness. You will need all the support you can get to help you succeed along this journey.
The final step of this process involves taking positive, proactive action.
Your objective is to progressively condition your new behavior in small ways until it eventually becomes a habit. This, of course, won’t be easy. You may very well at times relapse and fall back into your old habits. That’s okay. Just acknowledge and recognize what happened, and then make a course correction.
At this stage, it’s important to practice self-compassion and to forgive yourself for falling back into old patterns of behavior. We all make mistakes, and changing unhelpful thoughts and patterns of behavior — especially addictions — ain’t easy. It’s hard work that takes a lot of conscious effort.
With this in mind, it’s important that you take gradual steps moving forward. When you succeed, reward yourself with something special. This process of operant conditioning will help keep you motivated and focused on your long-term goal.
And that’s, of course, the key. This is a long-term process. Overcoming an addiction isn’t something you will do in a day, week or even a month. It’s something that you must work on over time. Old habits/addictions fade, but they never truly go away, which is why you must be vigilant at all times to stay the course.
Keep persisting through your difficulties, and you will eventually reach a stage where your addiction no longer has a hold over you. You will then be free to be the person you have always wanted to be.
Keep reading for more guidelines and ideas on how to overcome an addiction.
Some people take drugs, use alcohol or become addicted to other things because they think it helps in coping with stress. But an addiction can be very stressful. Do following things to cope with stress:-
Relaxation – meditation and yoga
Being with friends
Planning ahead and having routines
Eating healthily and sleeping well.
We typically indulge in addictions to take our mind off problems, painful emotions, or simply to hide our insecurities. These addictions provide us with a sense of control that helps carry us forward through to the next day.
Addictions however only hold power over you when you simply have nothing else to use as a substitute. In other words, you are prioritizing your addictions over other aspects of your life. Your addictions essentially become more important than anything else you could even fathom doing in that moment.
If your addiction is not serving you, give yourself permission to let loose of it. Ask yourself why you keep it if it isn’t serving YOU?
Many people say Addictions are not bad if it’s taking you to your goals, your desires, your drives. But please think that why are you not in control? Why your addiction is controlling you?
You have to be in charge of your life. And let nothing control over you.
Addiction of reading books or watching infotainment channels on T.V. is surely good things as it will give you knowledge and let you soak up informations which is good as there is a popular saying ” THE MORE YOU LEARN THE MORE YOU EARN ” by the world’s most successful persons “Warren Buffet” and “Brian Tracy”.
But always remember Everything is good to a certain level to a certain degree but anything excess is bad. Making something your addiction is not good, even the addiction of reading books. It can hamper you, your life, your social status, your happiness your well being etc.., I’m not saying don’t read books, what I’m saying is never get controlled by it
Do the things you love but never let them control you therefore never make anything your addiction.
Comment below your addiction and how are you going to eradicate it from your life?
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