Ever wondered what’s the first message you should send a girl? How to ask a girl on a date: and feel confident that she’ll say ‘yes’? How to use texts to flirt with girls until they can’t wait to see you? And how to contact a girl after not hearing from her for ages?
Think about how important texts, and emails, are to dating today. Long gone are the
days of the love letter, maybe even the phone call:
We now have about 156 characters to express our intentions in.
Texting has allowed us to connect with so many people at a time.
>> Advantages of Texting
Texting is very similar to normal conversation but with one HUGE difference; you
have time to think of a good answer.
This is the killer advantage to texting that few people take advantage of. They don’t
realize that they can craft a very witty, cool response to whatever anyone says to
Texting allows you to get back to the texter when it is convenient or maybe not get
back to them at all.
Very often you may not want to respond. Often this sends a stronger message than
responding. That person asking you to cover their shift at work or maybe a girl that
was a bit bitchy, you may not want to respond to.
If you discipline yourself to take that extra 30 seconds to send something much
smarter than what you normally would, you will get extraordinary results.
Not only that, but you can step out of the emotional moment, in other words, you
have time to calm down so that you can say the right thing later.
What a killer opportunity if you tend to say the wrong thing to women.
Take your time and create a response that creates more attraction and pushes
your wit muscles.
Texting is very useful and is here to stay but it has a lot of limitations. It is
very difficult to pick up tone in a text. You may want a response back quickly but
you may not get one. Texting can be annoying, easily ignored, or cause feelings to
Even with all of these disadvantages, texting is incredibly useful and will only
increase in functionality in the next few years.
Unfortunately, no matter how much it improves, there still will be a lot of communication problems associated with texting.
However, I am going to teach you how to become a badass Alpha male at texting and get insane results.
Very often these results are even better than talking to someone in person.
I will teach you how to avoid the typical pitfalls of texting and the BIG NO NOs that will get you ignored and erased. With some simple strategy, you will be able to get her to text you back immediately with the
answer you want to hear!
Now first and foremost the most important things of all the important things which we must discuss –
>> THE MINDSET
If you have the right mindset you can get whatever you want.
Your mentality dictates your reality.
If your thoughts are not in line with the messages that you send then eventually,
sooner rather than later, she’ll realize that you’re a scam.
You need to understand and embrace the Universal truth that –
Your thoughts dictate your beliefs.
Beliefs dictate your actions.
Actions dictate your results.
Always have a positive outlook towards life. Always know that everything happens
for a reason. Everything happens for your own benefit.
>>Biggest Texting Mistake –
You should never hang on the person’s next words, ready to fire off a response.
This communicates need, the biggest dating buzz kill. I am not telling you to not
respond, only to be aware that it is far more preferable to make the girl wait five
minutes, an hour, or a day.
This translates to Facebook too. DO NOT be instant messaging with your target,
it is just a bad idea until you build some real attraction first.
Constantly apologizing for who you are.
You cannot do this in life, and especially not in texting. I am not talking about
being late and not apologizing for it.
I am talking about the incessant use of sorrys to be accepted by others.
This is just ugly in text and makes you look very weak. What if instead of
saying sorry you actually said, “I am pathetic, please like me” or “please accept me ,
I am your bitch.”
Would this kind of person seem attractive to you? Would you want to be friends
or lovers with this person? 90% of the time, when you use “Sorry…” it is
Now that we know some mistakes during texting. Lets set some Ground rules of texting.
>>The Texting Credos –
1). Don’t ask vague questions:
Make a question too broad and it becomes very difficult to answer. Avoid it.
2). Counter demand:
If she asks you to do something for her: make a counter demand. For example, if she can
only meet on a certain day; choose the location and what you’re doing.
3). Use strong language
There’s no ‘if’s’, ‘buts’’, ‘maybe’s’, or ‘would you like to’s’ about it.So scrap all the, ‘would you like to maybe…’ and replace rapidly with ‘let’s try…’
4). Don’t accept second place:
If she doesn’t give you a firm ‘yes’ back, then accept it as a ‘no’.
5). Match her ratio:
This means that you do not send her tons of texts in a row and blow up her phone,
if she doesn’t respond.Keep the ratio of your texts 1:1 where possible.
6). Act nonchalant if she says ‘no’:
If you get a flat out ‘no’, or an ‘I’m busy’, do not get angry with her!
7). Mirror her levels of investment:
If she’s says she can’t see you , you do the same.
Be clear about what you want to do with her, so she knows what she’s agreeing to. Even better, make it sound exciting and she’s more likely to say yes.
You may not feel that you are the most attractive guy, but little do you know that this
really isn’t all that important.
How many times have you seen a really hot girl with an average guy and you’ve said,
“WTF? Why is she with HIM??” The answer is very simple, he is smart, and knows
how to entertain/challenge her.
Women date men far more often for what they say, and who they are, than how they look. Don’t underestimate this, if you say the right things, super hot girls will be attracted to you like flies to honey.
I have discussed about it a lot in previous articles.
But another quick guide is necessary here.
Attraction boils down to one thing: Sexual tension. And maintaining that tension
boils down to one thing: Power balance.
I can give you a ton of tips, tricks, rules and no nos but they are relatively
worthless if you don’t understand the purpose and meaning behind what you should
and shouldn’t do.
So pay close attention.
- Come too strong setting off her fear response.
- Smothering her with attention, so she couldn’t breathe.
- Don’t ignore the fact that she isn’t reciprocating your attraction.
- Ignore to the tons of “hints” showing her lack of interest.
- Be too polite and never initiate sex, which makes you look weak.
- Make relationship demands before she is even remotely ready.
- Act jealous and demand sexual exclusivity.
Now that we know what you don’t need to do. Let’s discuss what you NEED to do.
Attraction Dos –
- Opinionated – Lovers don’t need to have the same world-view, in fact to push
your partner to a new understanding of the world is a beautiful gift.
- Independent strength – you are strong and you do not need the other’s strength
- Demanding of respect – Without this, no love can maintain. You must be willing
to lose what you love in order to protect who you are.
- Continuous desire for growth – Both of you must be growth oriented and keep
exploring newer horizons and boundaries to keep things interesting.
- Equal physical/sexual attraction – If you can look at your lover and say, “My
god… is that who I am going to make love to tonight?” Wow, is there any
greater positive sexual tension than this?
- Fun, Humor and delight – Without laughter and joy, what relationship can be
- Communication – It is so important that in a relationship you both communicate
each other and understand each other.This is the glue which keeps you both
together.So keep renewing this glue from time to time.
>>When to Text For the First time –
DON’T TEXT RIGHT AWAY!!
You need to wait… a minimum of a day, better yet, a few days. If it is longer
than a week, I find the initial interest tends to fade.
I know you really want to text them right away but this is your subconscious betraying you.
Wait a couple of days and show the other person that you are worthy of something
As a guy you have to watch your sexual impatience, it will do nothing but scare
a girl away.
>>Always be the First to Exit the Conversation
You must always do this and it needs to be a conscious choice. You should set up a mental timer of about 10 minutes and then exit.
Now, You are tremendously busy, and you often don’t respond to a text.
This will accidentally put you in control of almost every text conversation.
You simply don’t have time to be talking to everyone that drops you a line.
Your time is too valuable to spend texting all day. This sends a powerful message
that you too busy for them.
You have so many things going on, so many people to talk to and if you drop you a
line you are LUCKY!
There is nothing worse than expressing too much need, being busy and not
getting back conveys the opposite of neediness.
>> Questions, Questions, Questions –
Thinking what questions to ask a girl almost seems like a quest. It’s as if this is
the make or break deal in Texting.
Boring questions like, “how are you?” makes her feel bored ,sleepy and wanna
On the other hand Interesting questions increases her intrigue, capture her attention,
spark her imagination and makes a positive impact of you in her head.
Interesting questions makes her to open up to you and sparks attraction.
And as you keep building the momentum getting to know each other better your
trust will grow, which leads to dates, sex and more.
Examples of Interesting Questions –
– If you could have any super power what would it be and why?
– If you had three wishes, what would they be?
– Have you ever done anything you could have gotten arrested for?
– If you were in the circus what performer would you be?
– If you knew you had a week to live what would you do?
– Would you rather have a guy who is a great kisser or a great dancer?
– Would you rather have a guy that is an amazing lover or has a lot of money?
Notice the trend in all these examples. All of these are emotion evoking. And that’s
how you get a girl.
If a man can arouse emotions, then he can get any girl.
If she asks you a question in return, be sure to give more than one-word answers.
Women connect and build trust emotionally, so give her an emotional answer.
Use a lot of descriptive details and imagery to tell her how it makes you feel.
I gave my best in trying to make you a Texting king. Now I hope that you apply
all that you have learnt and spice up your life.
Now you have the liberty to choose the texts that fit the girl, your personality,
and the situation best, but stay in the order of Fun, Challenge, Trust and Desire.
The only way to increase your skills and figure out new methods that work for you
is by applying constant experimentation.
Since NOW you know how to text a girl like an alpha male, I want to let you know that I have one step-by-step article which will teach you how to attract women without saying ANYTHING. You will be attracting women just from your body language ALONE.